Summary after lifetime of searching!

The spiritual quest is a deeply personal journey to explore existential questions, seek meaning, and connect with the divine or transcendent aspects of life. A lifetime of searching included trying to understand different philosophies like stoicism, buddhism and researching the way our brain works using scientific books like feeling good and overcoming intrusive thoughts. This yielded numerous lessons and shaped a variety of experiences. While there isn't a single, definitive summary of lessons for life due to its highly individualised nature, here are four basic principles that will help you kiddos lead a simple and successful life :

Dichotomy of Control

This is stoic principle. According to Stoic philosophy, the only things we truly control are our thoughts, choices, and actions. External circumstances, other people's actions, and events beyond our influence are not within our control. Therefore, dwelling on or becoming upset about things beyond our control only leads to unnecessary suffering and frustration.

The Dichotomy of Control encourages us to focus on developing virtues such as wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance in our own thoughts and actions, while maintaining an attitude of acceptance and resilience in the face of external events.

This can be applied to any situation, asking yourself "Is this in my control?" will always get the right answer and decision taking out the frustration associated with complicated life situations.

Gratitude

At its core, gratitude is the appreciation and acknowledgment of the good things, people, and experiences in our lives. Cultivating gratitude is a skill that can be developed over time through consistent practice. It involves intentionally recognising and acknowledging the blessings in your life.

Incorporating gratitude into your daily routine can have profound effects on your overall well-being. Taking just a few moments each day to : reflect on what you're thankful for and writing the three things that you are grateful for that day can make a significant difference in your outlook on life.

Non Judgmental

Being non-judgmental involves cultivating an attitude of acceptance, openness, and empathy towards oneself and others. We need to recognise that judgments are often based on assumptions and limited perspectives. Question your own beliefs and biases by considering alternative viewpoints and seeking to understand different experiences. Remember that being non-judgmental is not just to others but also to ourselves. It is a continual practice that requires self-awareness, empathy, and openness to growth and learning.

Being in the moment and savouring it

Being in the moment and savouring it is a practice often associated with mindfulness and living mindfully. It involves fully engaging with and appreciating the present moment without dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.

Increase your awareness by engaging your senses. Take the time to fully experience the present moment by engaging your senses. Notice the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and textures around you. This can help you feel more connected to the present moment and appreciate the richness of your experience.

Everyone of us understands these things on a fundamental level but we do not practice them. Putting it in practice everyday is the only way to make it a habit and help rewire the brain. Practicing the four principles above is a need for equanimity in life. So, lets get on with it :)